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10 Ways to Honor Your Deceased Mother on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is approaching and will be here before you know it. Mother’s Day is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. Traditionally Mother’s Day is held on the second Sunday in May.

Mother’s Day can be an emotional holiday for those who have lost their mothers. Whether it is a recent loss, or some time has passed, Mother’s Day can inspire you to do something special to honor the memory of the woman who will always remain in your heart.

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Missing Mom on Mother’s Day is natural. However way you decide to spend the day, experts agree that it’s essential for you to listen to your heart and allow yourself to do as much or as little as you are able. Giving yourself permission to grieve for and honor your mother in whatever way you need is essential for coping with a parent’s death.

Here a few ways you can spend Mother’s Day honoring your Mother.

  1. Make and share one of your mother’s favorite recipes with your family.
  2. Listen to an Audio Recording or Watch a Videos of Your Mother
  3. Look at Pictures from the Pass & Remember the Good Times
  4. Wear a Piece of Your Mothers Jewelry
  5. Create an Arrangement of Your Mother’s Favorite Flowers
  6. Light a special candle in Honor of Your Mother
  7. Listen to Your Mother’s Favorite Music
  8. Look for Signs That Your Mother’s Spirit Is Near
  9. Post a Picture of Your Mother and You On your Favorite Social Media Site
  10. Start or Share a Family Tradition with your Family that You Experienced Growing Up

1. Make and share one of your mother’s favorite recipes with your family.

If your mother made you a special meal or a favorite “comfort food” when you were young, then why not honor her memory by cooking her favorite dish or something you remember her making often? My mother always made a dish called  Boiled Dinner.

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 Boiled dinner is a one-pot dish consisting of leftover picnic ham shoulder, cabbage, carrots, onions, green beans, and potatoes. Mom was very frugal and resourceful back then because money was not plentiful in my family. You made the best of your leftovers. My mother made it with leftover ham and ham hocks. She cooked in a pressure cooker on the stovetop.

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 I like to make this dish in honor of my Mother on Mother’s Day. She had the 1965 version pressure cooker where she cooked this yummy dish! The early versions of pressure cookers had a little top that would shake and hiss and used to scare the bejesus out of me!! Looked something like this

                As time progressed since the year my mother passed in 1999, so has the modern-day pressure cooker, now known as an Instant Pot!

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OH, the wonders of an instant Pot, quick, easy, and everything in one pot! Still taste the same and no wiggly knob on top!

That dish brings back so many memories. Share your mothers’ favorite recipe with your children and tell them the stories that go along with that dish! One day they may share it with their children. Happy Mother’s Day!

2. Listen to an Audio Recording or Watch a Videos of Your Mother

If you have an audio or video recording, schedule some time to watch or listen to her recorded voice or video. It is so special to hear her voice. Share this with your children and make video and voice recordings for them to share someday.

3. Look at Old Pictures & Remember the Good Times

Mother’s Day or long holiday weekends offer an excellent opportunity to dig through those images with your family, share the stories behind the photos and create a special scrapbook or slideshow as a tribute to your mother.

4. Wear a Piece of Your Mothers Jewelry

Wear a piece of her jewelry or repurpose a part of her jewelry into something more contemporary if your style is different than your mother’s. If you have several pieces of her jewelry, you could combine them to have one piece made that includes all or some of the parts.

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5. Create an Arrangement of Your Mother’s Favorite Flowers

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Did you know that every flower symbolizes something and has a special meaning? My mother loved gardenias, which just so happens to be my favorite flower. I have many gardenia plants throughout my garden, so every time they are in bloom, I cut several to place in a vase to enjoy indoors.

The sweet fragrance brings back special memories of times I spent with my mother. The gardenias are associated with several meanings, including purity, love, and refinement, a perfect symbolization of my mother

6. Light a special candle in Honor of Your Mother

Lighting a candle in honor of my mom is something I have often done on her birthday, Mother’s Day, special holidays, and the day she became an angel. I found that merely designating those days to lite this unique candle in honor of her created a sort of presence or remembrance of all the times we shared. I have a personalized candle in memory of her in her favorite scent that I use just for those days of remembrance.

7. Listen to Your Mother’s Favorite Music

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Did your mother listen to a particular era of music?  Spend time listening to the songs she loved. Just sit and listen or have them play on your phone as you take a walk or run. We had a stereo console that my mother treasured. She had all the Big Band Jazz albums and would listen and dance to them as she moved through the house.

It looked something like this mid-century Magnavox. I never knew what happened to that piece, but I sure wish I had it now.

8. Look for Signs That Your Mother’s Spirit Is Near

Be observant throughout the day of any sign that you believe to know that your mother’s spirit is with you on this special day. Those that believe have distinctive signs or just a sense that their mother is near. It could be that red cardinal that visits the bird feeder just as you step outside or a number that keeps reappearing throughout the day. You could find a penny from heaven while you’re out walking or running an errand. There are many signs that your loved one is sending you that if you listen and watch closely, you will know that these are all signs that your loved one is near.

I have three angels that watch over me, My Mother, father, and younger brother.  I know that my mother signifies her presence when a dragonfly lands on me. As my mother laid in her hospice room, a dragonfly appeared on the window alongside a bird. Both the dragonfly and the bird remained on that windowsill until my mother passed. I found it odd that they remained so close together and stayed for such a long time and that I was so mesmerized during those last hours with my mom with why they were not bothering each other or flying away.

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My brother died nine months after my mother in a tragic helicopter crash. I cried for months. I was devastated. Something occurred every night for several months that I found very odd. I woke up every night at exactly 3:33 a.m. At first, I didn’t realize or associate it with anything. But as this continued for months, I thought I would start to investigate why this was happening. I started reading about numerical signs and what they mean. It wasn’t until around the fourth month that it hit me! 333 and what it meant. My brother passed on March 3, 2000, and the time of death was at 3:33 p.m. March is the 3rd month of the year, day three at 3:33! Coincidence? I think not!

Wings Around Me Pennies from Heaven Keepsake Jar the place where I keep all my found pennies from my loved ones. All signs that my angels are near. 

My 3rd angel, my father, loves to send me pennies from heaven. He was always into saving his change. He had a big bag where he kept all these loose coins. He would find a penny on the sidewalk and pick it up and put it in his pocket to later put it in that bag. Soon after he passed, I was finding pennies everywhere. One day I found a penny next to a feather. As I went to pick it up, a slight breeze was in the air. That penny next to that feather at that moment, felt like an angel was embracing me. I picked up that penny and feather and placed it in a jar. I now call that jar my Pennies from Heaven Keepsake Jar! That my dear friend is the day, I started my WingsAroundMe.com online e-commerce business! Thanks, Dad!

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9. Post a Picture of Your Mother and You On your Favorite Social Media Site

Celebrate the remembrance of your mother by posting a photo of her and you. Write about what the two of you have in common. My mother loved to keep busy, just like me. I always had to be doing something. My mother loved playing cards. For those that know me, know that I am just like my mother, I never pass up a game of cards. You get the idea. Everything you come up with will bring back so many memories of time spent with your mom.

10. Start or Share a Family Tradition with your Family that You Experienced Growing Up

  1. Start or Share a Family Tradition with your Family that You Experienced Growing Up

Sunday Suppers was always a big thing in our family. It was always a big meal, served late afternoon.

Friday night was the only night we went out to dinner. My mother was a waitress at New England Oyster House, so my dad would take us there, and we always ate Florida Lobster. Lobster just so happens to be my favorite meal.

 

I hope you have found some useful tips to help you cherish memories of your mom in this post 10 Ways to Honor Your Deceased Mother on Mother’s Day

If you have other ways to honor your mom on Mother’s Day after she has passed away, please feel free to leave a comment on the Wings Around Me Facebook page. I would love to hear about your traditions.

I wish you the very best Mother’s Day, and I sincerely wish you remembrance, healing, and hope on this extraordinary day.

Did you know? More phone calls are made on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year. These holiday chats with Mom often cause phone traffic to spike by as much as 37 percent.